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| Wednesday, December 9th, 2009 | |
| 10:30 am | free livestream show from Kink’s Upper Floor  Image by Richard Kadrey/Kaos Beauty Klinik. This is a Tiny Nibbles PSA: I felt it was my duty to tell you about Kink’s free livestreamed show tomorrow (December 10) from their Upper Floor. At the Armory, there will be an elaborate scene enacted live in the decadent quarters constructed on the top floor and broadcast on The Upper Floor’s site — the stream will be of medium quality, though if you want high quality you can buy it. The point for them is to demonstrate the outrageous “Story of O” style living quarters/submissive training theme, give viewers a video tour of the amazing accommodations and officially launch the website, so they’re giving away a free taste. They write,
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| Tuesday, December 8th, 2009 | |
| 10:43 am | more love from the help desk? yes, please! The cool peeps at Zendesk have been at it again with more love from and for the help desk; I was told there was a lot of talk about this one before adding it… We sexy geek fans are glad they did! Help Desk Love Gone WAY Too Far is cute! and who is that hot boy they keep using in the videos? Sexy geek list fodder? Check out Love Your Help Desk for more. |
| 10:50 am | a festive holiday CL Casual Encounter  Image by artsy_j. Leave it to Craigslist Casual Encounters to make those Starbucks holiday beverages into something dirty. From San Fransisco, a dispatch:
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| 11:05 am | on talking to doctors about sex  Image by helenaa75. My most recent San Francisco Chronicle column was really popular, and even got me invited to more than one medical convention. In the The Sex Doctor is Out, I cover the topic of finding a sex-positive doctor (at the very least one you can talk to about sex comfortably), and how to talk to a doctor about sex. For the piece I brought in two experts — two doctors, actually: Dr. Charlie Glickman, Ph. D. and Dr. Keely Kolmes, Psy. D. (drkkolmes.com). The article is an incredibly useful resource, and I’m extremely happy to see this information and advice now out in the world. Here’s a snip:
* After it was published: The only resource missing from this piece, which is heterosexual and non-kink focused, while including LGBT info, is a link to Kink Aware Professionals (ncsfreedom.org). |
| 11:42 am | time for sexy geek nominations!  Image “Fire (Show Me Light)” by Rai Robledo (rairobledo.com). I know — I’m opening up nominations two days later than usual (disclaimer: I’m in Paris right now to speak about the future of sex on a global stage; it’s all okay). But like 2005, ‘06, ‘07 (’08), and ‘09, I’ll be posting the Top Ten Sexy Geeks of 2010 on December 20, 2010. So now — the always-surprising, sexy geek blush inducing, Laughing Squid server-smokin’ list is back for its *sixth* year in a row. Six years of sexy geeks = life is good, indeed. Seen a hottie execute some heart-pounding tech-fu? Have you been admiring a builder, scaler, or web/phone app writin’ babe you feel is unsung for their mad code skillz and nerdy sex appeal? Heard of a sexpot who speaks all the romance languages (you know the ones), built their site from the ground up, or is lurking like an evil mastermind behind a badass startup or tech blog? I do personally handpick the list, but I base it on *your* nominations every year. Now’s the time to let me know: violet at tinynibbles dot com — also, you can Tweet your nominations @ me, or leave suggestions in the comments (I approve anons, yo). I do all the research, but any links you send along help. Criteria: Not nerdalicious enuf: * Celebrities, especially Hollywood ones and pointless vlogstars or empty Twitterati. Also disqualified: anyone who’s already been on this list in a previous year. Lube up your browser and nominate anyone who is: * Smart, nerdy and HOT. And, as always — single or not, it’s all in fun. One year I had a hot couple on the list! |
| 3:38 pm | the view from paris [podcast]  Image taken with my Android (Moment) with FX Camera and FlickrDroid. A special edition: live from Paris! In this quickie, I read “The View From Paris” from Alison Tyler’s collection, “Exposed” — this afternoon, from the garden next to the Louvre. The image in this post is my view; the Eiffel Tower behind a statue of The Three Graces, in the garden. On a park bench, with an occasional audience, I read the explicit story of a newly-wed couple’s torrid, semi-public sex encounter — on their honeymoon in Paris. * View the podcast post and download the audio file (violetblue.libsyn.com). |
| Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009 | |
| 7:52 pm | love the help desk? thought you’d never ask… Now that is customer service. December 8 is the official ‘love your help desk agent’ day — who knew? No one! It’s new! Thanks to Zendesk we now have Love Your Help Desk Day, to encourage a moment of appreciation for help desk customer support reps. To this end they’ve made (among other things like cool stickers) a series of help desk agent appreciation videos. Lucky for us — they made a naughty one, and it seems to be pulled directly from the steamier pages of our sexy-geek obsessed brains. I’m thinking of it more as a potential script. It’s one in a series of three videos that are part of their campaign aimed at supporting help desk agents: the campaign itself isn’t sex specific, except for this one funny video they created. Thanks Zendesk! You rock in oh so many ways. Thank you for taking care of me, and Laughing Squid! |
| 8:23 am | actually, most commercial porn is dangerous because it might bore you to death  Image by artsy_j. The other risk with porn is that you may end up in anger management classes while waiting for your skintube video to buffer. Other than that, when you find hot porn, no one gets hurt unless they’ve carefully negotiated the scene beforehand and then asked the lady with the whip very nicely. Still, the alleged dangers of porn are not only overhyped but made of myths largely made up by people with no supporting data (and stereotypically, propaganda-fueled agendas that do not seek facts). No, really. Just ask people who make statements about porn causing pathological and/or harmful behavior where they got the hard data for their ‘facts’. It’s fun. I do it all the time. New research suggests porn is overly demonized
Update 12.02.09: Wow, the cNet writer left out the best part of that last quote. How unfortunate. Lajeunesse actually said, “Aggressors don’t need pornography to be violent and addicts can be addicted to drugs, alcohol, gaming and asocial cases are pathological. If pornography had the impact that many claim it has, you would just have to show heterosexual films to a homosexual to change his sexual orientation.” Here is great writeup on PsychCentral today with better quotes (more complete) and additional fun information on the study: Pornography’s Effect on Men Under Study:
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| 8:53 am | for the love of FLNGS: best multi-user sex blog
I recently discovered what has to be the best multi-contributor sex blog (for visual erotic art) on the internet right now: FLNGS (latenightfeelings.com). It includes the ongoing contributions of legendary talents Nathan Appel, Bob Coulter, Chase Lisbon, Merkley???, George Pitts, Tony Stamolis and now, Katie West. Right now one of the hottest girls on the internet is guest blogging sexy photos combined with her trademark mesmerizing writing. Katie West has a huge cult following, and if you don’t know who she is, this is a great way to take a nibble of her astounding self-portraits (and photos of other women). A few samples from her posts are here, but you must catch up with what’s going on with FLNGS (link: on Twitter). It’s a remarkable body of work and emotion, a joy to watch unfold. And it’s quite arousing.    |
| Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 | |
| 6:48 am | kittehs are always a welcome distraction
The above image is part of a must-see larger piece by Eric Elenbaas (ericelenbaas.nl, via). It’s a lovely distraction for a girl who should be rehearsing her next appearance… And while on the subject of eros and kittehs, this pic brought a smile to my face tonight (ponyxpress.tumblr.com). |
| Monday, November 30th, 2009 | |
| 9:36 pm | women and porn: on Oprah Here I am, talking to Oprah about porn. Yay! She’s really fun to talk to. I just found the above segment with my appearance on the show via Twitter. A little over a week ago I was delighted to be a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show to talk about female porn consumers, and much much more. To say that I had a great time would be a massive understatement: as I wrote on my Facebook page, I’ve never been treated with such respect, and shared excitement for the subject matter. Oprah has a dream team of very passionate people who love their jobs and love who they work for — that’s obvious. They’re also funny and have a great sense of humor about everything. Recently I’ve had to deal with a lesser entity that is sex-negative; it’s amazing to contrast my experience working for and with Oprah. To say they treated me well would be an understatement. I was treasured and the subject of women and sex was explored in such an honest, unflinching way. Look closely at this show and you’ll notice that Oprah has reframed the entire conversation: we women are not ‘tolerated’ or marginalized for exploring our inhibitions, voicing our desires, or owning our sexual agency — we are embraced. The 1 in 3 consumers of adult material online — women — were finally acknowledged, and with respect for a change. And interest! We’re all checking this stuff out together, and talking to each other about it — as we have for years, starting with my old forum The Smart Girl’s Porn Club (circa 2003). Myths and stereotypes: smashed! We live in a world where women are more sexually powerful and articulate than any other time in history because of the internet and emergent communicative technologies. Oprah’s hip to it. You’re soaking in it. And that’s really, outrageously exciting for all of us. Like I said in last week’s column; I wonder how much sexual research has been flawed because researchers forgot the crucial ingredient of female sexual pleasure (and female sexual freedom)? There was a *lot* of media about the episode, but my faves are here: * What kind of woman watches porn? Three pages of my writing and research on Oprah.com. Images by my dear longtime friend Scott Beale / Laughing Squid (laughingsquid.com), who also shot the bio photo of me for Oprah Magazine back in 2007:   |
| 8:53 pm | the climate in which the sex-positive phone platform wins  Image by Noah Kalina. The iPhone’s app store has long had a reputation for prudery. So it doesn’t surprise me to see the Android pulling ahead with an open model that shows it has the market awareness to truly survive in the wild, allowing room for things like the just-announced, adults-only app store for the Android. I’d already poked around the store and found some cool grownup apps for my Moment, and I’m excited to see where this is headed. iPhone’s app store has so far failed the ‘make your business model sex positive’ test, which would make it able to withstand the changing and growing face of adult consumers (i.e. that 1 in 3 people seeking adult content is female), and I’m excited to see what’s next for my cool new phone. If only people would stop offering to write me apps for the iPhone and I’d get offers from Android developers… I worry that the iPhone app store would not treat my topic with fairness or respect. Here’s PC Week with more on the story (beware ANNOYING rollover ads):
In the iPhone app store, nothing remotely adult is officially allowed, unless you count the many fairly misogynistic bikini apps, versus the iPhone app store’s immediate response to pull a male pinup app (which showed no nudity, while featuring some strategically torn jeans here and there). Gay apps without the sex? No problem. (Though don’t tell them Grindr is a hookup app.) TapGay? Not so much. |
| 9:31 am | in which we are certain your vagina does not need a breath mint  Image by yasu529. This is one of those items that does not necessarily have a happy ending, nor give anyone happy face (especially not anyone who deep-sixes a dubious suppository into their precious parts). However, the last word on the topic, provided by longtime friend, colleague and fellow sex educator Charlie Glickman had me rooting like a gothy sex nerd cheerleader from my office chair tonight. (I assisted Charlie in developing and working together in a professional sex ed department for many years.) Femimint Hygiene: Vagina Mints? Dear Mother Mary with an Altoids fetish, NO! Snip:
And then, Dr. Glickman makes us trade our mortification for reason, wit… and something like a slap:
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| 10:00 am | if you’ve ever wondered what those Met Art photo shoots are really like…
I really admire the beauty in those European pinup models (and big-name photographers) at Met Art and generally regard their work highly — the combination of tasteful and explicit content with fairly wholesome-looking, natural ladies unarguably puts our domestic men’s magazines to shame. But I’ve always wondered what the vibe is during the shoots, and what it’s all like. Then I got an email with this link to video of a number of photo shoots with cute model Chantelle :) Very cool. After watching it, I went into the free gallery database and found a couple of galleries with Chantelle for research purposes, of course, but interestingly I also found a couple of the scenarios shown in her video. I love this one with the heart shaped locket. Posed, but pretty. This set called Famous is in the video, as is this gorgeous set in natural light and shadows (main post image source). Neat stuff. Enjoy! |
| Sunday, November 29th, 2009 | |
| 8:49 am | lascivious housewares   I’ve been angling to do a lascivious housewares post for a few days now, and while longtime readers know how much I’ve yearned for the Seven Deadly Sins Plate Set, I found a few things that make me want to spend money I don’t have and complete my wanna-be naughty cupboard collection. (I include my Laughing Squid Mug as part of my geek-pervy collection, BTW.) Above we have the very clever Wanker and Lesbo plates; below we have the Bitch and Wanker Tea Set (want! perfect for me and the boy!) and the lusty, must have for my bar Ceramic Cock Bottle Stopper. Beyond that, I sort of want to pair the Flutterby Vibrator Jade with the *adorable* Grey Union Jack Cushion. (More here.) Also for the bar, I loved Sin in Linen’s Girl Power Rock cocktail glasses with wonderful images for (ahem) shoe lovers. Add to that the stunning, really gorgeous yet inconspicuous high end designer Condom Dispenser from Uncommon Goods, and you’re arriving in style. Have you seen any more lascivious housewares? Let me know!     Full disclosure: Coco de Mer is a lovingly handpicked sponsor of Tiny Nibbles — among the supporters I’ve personally chosen to partner with and who make this blog possible — and I’m delighted to say I’m meeting the London contingent next month (this post links to their online US store). This post is not part of the sponsorship, they didn’t know I was going to do it, and is more like a personal wishlist :) |
| 1:33 am | the thing is, if I had a penis I don’t think I’d stick it in a Cuisinart
But I’ll admit that the video by Kanojo Toys for the (Japanese) Ona Max Revolution Sex Machine (kanojotoys.com) is a must-see. Especially since I’m surprised it hasn’t been pulled from YT yet… But, wow. Here’s another classic from Kanojo, sans testicle-dildo demo: |
| Saturday, November 28th, 2009 | |
| 9:59 pm | female sexual desire a la the NYT Magazine  Image by Half Pinay – Laretta Houston. There’s a really interesting, in-depth article about the research around women and sexual desire in the NYT Magazine. Caveat that it’s in the NYT Magazine because if you don’t clear your cookied or use some kind of bugmenot, they still make you log in to read it — and yes, I still find this a terribly outdated and invasive and annoying thing to send my readers to. I still wish they’d stop it so reading their content was more accessible for everyone. Women Who Want to Want by a writer to watch our for, Daniel Bergner is something I’d like to see widely read. Anyway… This thing is six long fascinating pages long, and totally riveting. I have some very provocative highlights below. The first thing I thought of when I read this article is the concept of so-called “lesbian bed death”. This is the term for a theory put forth by Pepper Schwartz that lesbians have less sex than other couples, especially over time when in long term relationships; that the sex “dies” off after the couple is established. I think that LBD is both a phenomenon and a self-fulfilling prophesy. But this NYT article addresses this issue (though not directly in a lesbian context) and also surprisingly covers the arena of desire, unconventional sexual interests (like, um, bondage or spanking) and how these interests have been typically categorized as mental illnesses — and that times, they have changed. I do enjoy seeing this included in the conversation. First snip, from Women Who Want to Want by a writer to watch out for, Daniel Bergner:
And then further into the piece, here’s a taste of this:
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| Friday, November 27th, 2009 | |
| 10:38 pm | UK university job offer to study lapdancing pays less than lapdancing Just found this item: Leeds University advertises for lap dance research officer (telegraph.co.uk). The advertised position is for: “Research Officer – The rise and regulation of lap dancing and the place of sexual labour and consumption in the night time economy”. The ad states that “prior experience of conducting research in the female sex industry” is essential. Telegraph UK says, “Having got the post, the successful applicant would work with the school’s team on a research project to examine the “rise, tolerance and integration of sexual consumption and sexual labour displayed through the erotic dance industry”, and the commercialisation of female sexuality and the female body.” The punchline, to me, is the offered salary in comparison to what one might make actually doing the lapdancing, rather than study it. Belle de Jour, anyone? Here’s the official job offer page with details (hr.leeds.ac.uk). |
| 9:16 pm | the conflicted existence of a female porn writer  Image via limbic. After finding this essay on McSweeney’s, I’ve had it in the lineup waiting to share it with you. Funny, interesting, well written, and all too familiar… Here’s a snip from the middle of The Conflicted Existence of a Female Porn Writer by Lynsey G.:
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| 8:00 pm | real, honest female orgasm advice
When out at lunch with a friend recently, she asked for some serious sexual advice for her friend. Her friend, it turns out (and really, it was her friend, not herself) — her friend is a 22 year old woman who has never had an orgasm. Miss 22, she found out, had told her this and also that she did not masturbate because she didn’t know how. After their conversation, Miss 22 did an informal survey of her friends, and lo, they were all women who openly admitted to masturbating, which left Miss 22 feeling like she’d really been left out. She came back to my friend and asked for advice. Her friend came to me. I don’t have the bandwidth right now to answer sex advice questions — and apologies if you’ve emailed me and I have not had a chance to respond. Please call or email SFSI.org, where I teach, and learn. I’m so swamped I can barely keep my friends from thinking I’ll never email them back. But this was face to face, and I told her to get a book I Iove. She said “Sex for One? I got that for her and she was too overwhelmed by it.” I told her I never recommend that book for that very reason, because it opens with the author talking about her experiences at group masturbation parties, and that always puts women off who are new to the whole concept of female orgasm — let alone group sex parties! No, I told her to get a copy of the outstanding When the Earth Moves by Mikaya Heart. Also: Lou Paget’s Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming, The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides (Psy. D.) and for follow-up reading, The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker. Advanced orgasmic exploration is in The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot (also UK) These are all no-nonsense, plain talk, fun attitude practical books that are outstanding for beginners. And to pair it with erotica: because she’s heterosexual I recommended Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women (also UK) and Girls On Top: Erotic Fantasies for Women (also UK) — both because they’re packed with well-written women’s erotic fantasies, by women, for women. Just thought I’d pass it along. |
